Somebody taught you what to expect from being loved. That you would be chosen, or that you would have to earn it, or that it always arrives with a bill attached. You have been comparing everyone to that lesson since. This is about finding out who wrote it.

This journal guide is for those on a tough relationship journey who feel cracked open, confused, and called to heal. Through reflective prompts, you'll explore love, loss, trauma, and transformation — not to reunite with your soulmate, but to reunite with yourself. Your soul knows the way. This is where your true transformation starts.

The same dynamic tends to reappear with different people, which is the clue that it is yours to look at. This examines what you reliably do when a relationship gets close, gets tense, or gets uncertain, and where you learned to do it.

One of the ways we can cultivate wellness in all six dimensions is by examining each one and exploring how we might step into each one more fully. Below are Holstee’s six dimensions of Wellness. 🧠 Mind — I am aware of my emotions. I engage in creative and stimulating activities. 🏃🏽‍♀️ Body — I am physically active, eat mostly whole foods, and prioritize my sleep. 🌈 Soul — I feel both a sense of awe and a connection to the world around me. ☀️ Work — I gain personal satisfaction and fulfillment from my responsibilities. 🎸 Play — I make time for activities that spark joy in me. 💗 Love — I nourish, and am nourished by, the people in my life.