1. Name one thing you didn't try. 

A job, a person, a move, a sentence. Specific and real, not a general category of missed opportunity.

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2. What reason did you give at the time? 

Write the exact explanation you used, to yourself or to someone else. Then decide whether you still believe it.

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3. What would failing at it have proved about you? 

This is usually the real content. Not the loss itself, but what the loss would confirm.

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4. What is the current version of that same decision? 

There is one in front of you now with a different label on it. Find it.